Updated: Apr 10, 2020
Research has shown that up to 25% of children at the age of four and an estimated 10% of South African children aged between four and 15 years old experience bedwetting.
Even though bedwetting is common in many South African households, it is not often spoken about openly due to feelings of embarrassment. This embarrassment and lack of communication has contributed to a number of myths surrounding bedwetting coming to light. Dr Michael Mol, Brand Ambassador for DryNites® Pyjama Pants, debunks seven common myths below, in the hopes of helping parents support their children affected by bedwetting.
Myth 1: Bedwetting is caused by drinking too much fluid before bedtime
This is not true. The medical term for bedwetting is Nocturnal Enuresis, which is summarised as the involuntary discharge of urine after the age at which bladder control should have been established. The word to take note of is involuntary, which means that the child does not know that they are wetting the bed. In most cases, it’s linked to delays in physiological development; it could also stem from being in a very deep sleep or a bowel issue like constipation. Dr Mol suggests limiting your child’s intake of sugary or caffeinated drinks a couple of hours before bedtime, but they should always be allowed to drink water as this doesn’t affect whether or not your child will wet the bed.
Myth 2: Using an absorbent product enables bedwetting
Bedwetting products (such as Pampers DryNites® Pyjama Pants) have been shown to improve sleep quality, boost confidence and reduce stress (which can be a causational factor in bedwetting), as it makes wetting the bed less of a big deal. They will also give your child some control over the situation, especially if they have reached sleepover age.
Myth 3: If your child is properly toilet trained, they shouldn’t be wetting the bed
Urine control during the day is completely different to what goes on when your child is sleeping. In most cases, it will rectify itself in time and is nothing to worry about. Never blame yourself (or your child) or think that you didn’t finish the job properly when you were taking them through the toilet training phase. Your child could be a star bathroom goer while they’re awake, but it is nobody’s fault if they wet the bed while they’re asleep.
Myth 4: Children wet the bed when they are lazy to go to the bathroom
This is false and, if believed, could lead parents to blame their child for wetting the bed, which will only exacerbate the problem. There are several reasons why your child may be wetting the bed.
Myth 5: Punishing your child for wetting the bed will help their progress
Remember that your child has no control over the situation and probably feels incredibly bad about it. The best thing a parent can do for their child in this situation is to remain calm and supportive while helping their child to manage their bedwetting. Understanding the problem goes a long way in terms of maintaining your child’s confidence levels.
Myth 6: Bedwetting is a sign of psychological problems or antisocial tendencies
There is no evidence suggesting that primary bedwetting has anything to do with psychological issues. It is true that if your child begins wetting the bed after a period of six months or more of being dry at night (secondary bedwetting), it could be due to stress or an emotional issue, such as grief. If this is the case then you should talk to your child about what’s on their mind and flag the issue with your GP, play therapist or psychologist.
Myth 7: Waking your child in the middle of the night for a bathroom visit will end bedwetting
It is common practice for parents to wake their children in the middle of the night and encourage them to use the bathroom to prevent bedwetting. This is often referred to as ‘lifting’ and can seem like a good strategy if it helps keep the sheets dry. The reality is that this will not improve your child’s bladder control and could frustrate them, especially if they don’t need to urinate when you wake them up. If your child is over five years old it may also cause them to feel discouraged which will have a negative effect on their self-esteem.
Source: Sabio Communications. Image: Free-Images.com